Counsellor’s Name: A.T Report Date: 1/12/2021
Counselee Name: K.T #
Temperament: Gc-CP-G #
A. Problem as Viewed by Counselee: According to his description, Kapri has been unsettled for much of his life. Kapri does not tolerate loneliness and needs to be around people constantly. Since Kapri does not clearly understand the problem, he struggles to be like others, but in vain. Kapri thinks that his personality issues adversely affect his physical and mental wellness and therefore requires an urgent solution before the situation worsens.
B. Problem as Seen by Counselor: Kapri comes from a middle-class single-parent family of seven children. Although his mother took good care of him, Kapri has remained unnoticed for most of his life because he is the fourth-born child. In simpler words, his mother concentrated mainly on the older and younger children. Since childhood, Kapri experienced behavioural and personality problems with his siblings and other children until he was diagnosed with ADHD. Even with the problem known, his mother could not disclose the situation to him, fearing that he may perceive himself as abnormal or different from his siblings and peers.
C. Stated Position as Counseling Student.
I verbally informed the client of my position as a Christian counselling student as per the requirements. I offered him a copy of the Statement of Counselor Values and Orientation for further verification.
D. Use of the Word of God.
In addition to counselling, I ministered to Kapri through the word of God. Firstly, we discussed Kapri’s personality. In this sense, I told him that God creates every person differently because we all have a unique mission and destiny. From this perspective, I assured him that even though he may not act or perceive things the same as his siblings, God loves him equally and is delighted to have created him that way. Secondly, we discussed his character problems, including extreme anger and fear of rejection. In this case, I told Kapri that God knows his weaknesses, and he only needed to pray for guidance, patience, and restraint to live a happy everyday life. In addressing anxiety and restlessness, I advised Kapri to reduce his worries, trust God, and focus his energies on positive aspects. I realized that Kapri needed appreciation, validation, and praise for his attainments. From this viewpoint, I reminded him that God was watching and would bless him abundantly. In this case, I pointed out that only God’s validation mattered most, and therefore, Kapri should always strive to please God because, unlike people, God’s grace, love, and protection last forever. This response conjured much courage in Kapri, and his face lit up with hope and determination.
Kapri is Sanguine Compulsive in Inclusion.
Kapri agreed that he is an extrovert and generally dislikes being alone. He often strives to be with other people and experiences a lot of pressure when situations do not allow him to engage with others. Typically, Kapri is talkative, increasingly active, compulsive, and responsive. Like most ADHD patients, Kapri is easily bored and prefers to live in the moment without considering tomorrow or whatever comes next. As an extrovert, Kapri loves attention and is willing to do anything unpleasant to be noticed or accepted by people. Even though he may be such an extrovert, Kapri experiences mood swings, uncontrollable anger and is motivated mainly by rewards.
Kapri is Choleric Phlegmatic in Control
Although an extrovert, Kapri is independent-minded and self-confident. Besides having good leadership qualities and negotiation skills, Kapri makes sound decisions and manages his responsibilities. Nevertheless, responsibilities drain his energy, and therefore, Kapri seeks to control other people more than they should hold him. As an overly ambitious perfectionist, Kapri dislikes failure and sets high standards for himself and others. When he fails to meet his goals, Kapri criticizes himself and blames his counterparts for their weakness. At all times, Kapri struggles for recognition and gets angry and frustrated if not praised for his attainments.
Kapri is Sanguine in Affection.
Despite being hyperactive, Kapri expresses and requires love, affection, and appreciation. However, his attention shifts quickly. Kapri values and strives to maintain deep and intimate relationships with many people. In this way, he feels secure, loved, and appreciated. Due to his overwhelming fear of rejection, Kapri employs and responds to physical expressions like kissing and hugging. Since he values deep relations, Kapri risks everything to maintain a relationship, quickly moves on, and works harder on a new relationship if the previous one fails. Because he strongly believes in love, Kapri inspires many people and brightens their lives. Notwithstanding, Kapri is highly vulnerable to intense anger, anxiety, and emotions if rejected. In such cases, he reacts without regard for the consequences of his actions on himself and others.
Scriptures used:
Philippians 4:19. My God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.
Psalms 37:4. Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
1st Peter 38. Finally, be like-minded, sympathetic, love one another, and compassionate and humble.
E. Goals for This Client
Most people do not understand Kapri’s problem because they are unaware of his condition. I believe Kapri requires holistic solutions to address his physical, psychological, and spiritual requirements. Firstly, I want to teach Kapri to fight loneliness by establishing a solid relationship with God through prayer. In this way, Kapri will discover, know and be assured that God is with him in everything he does and everywhere he goes. Secondly, I will teach Kapri to rely more on God for love, affection, and other needs. He should always remember that God loves him very much, and therefore he does not require to please people, do bad things, or hurt himself to maintain relationships. Finally, I would like Kapri to learn to restrain himself from needless anger and excessive emotions when facing adversities like rejection. In this way, I would like him to communicate more and express his pain in healthy and Godly ways, such as prayer.
F. Evaluation: Recommendations/Referrals
Due to the risk of anxiety and depression, Kapri should never be left or forced to be alone. He should have used various media to fight boredom and inactivity when lonely. Since Kapri loves attention and shifts his morals according to the prevailing situation, he should associate, interact, and socialize with disciplined people. Besides, Kapri should learn how to manage his emotions, submit to authority (including God’s authority), and consider other people’s feelings, opinions, emotions, and weaknesses. Kapri should also start appreciating and rewarding himself for his attainments to reduce expectations, self-criticism, and fear of rejection. Finally, through words and actions, Kapri should be constantly reminded that he is loved. More importantly, Kapri should understand and pray for God’s love, protection, and guidance in dealing with ungodly desires, rejection, and failing relations.
G. How Well Did You Do with This Client?
Your Strengths: I quickly understood Kapri’s situation and experiences because of my supine and outgoing personality. As a Christian student counsellor, I am devoted to serving people like Kapri, who are often misunderstood and perceived as indifferent. Besides, since I am talkative, Kapri was more comfortable, keen and responded well to questions throughout the session.
Your Weaknesses: As a phlegmatic in love and affection, I found it challenging to keep expressing love and appreciation to the client. At times, I felt the client had more to fear than rejection. Regardless of this weakness, I recognized his presence, appreciated his strengths, and maintained a warm, engaging, and friendly environment.
Reference
Barker, K. L., Strauss, M. L., Brown, J. K., Blomberg, C. L., & Williams, M. (Eds.). (2020). NIV study bible. Zondervan.
