Counsellor’s Name: A.T Report Date: 8/12/2021
Counselee Name: C.T #
Temperament: Gc-C-G #
A. Problem as Viewed by Counselee: Cortez describes his life as unfulfilling and restrained. His mother was sentenced to prison for drug trafficking when he was six years old. Since the state could not trace his relatives, he was transferred to a childcare facility and later to foster care. Although Cortez has been obedient, his foster parents are staunch Christians and very restrictive. In this situation, Cortez has been unable to pursue his skills, especially his love for basketball. Cortez thinks he is different from his friends and fears they will reject him once they discover his tumultuous upbringing.
B. Problem as Seen by Counselor: In my view, Cortez’s problems stem from early separation from his mother. Despite that he managed to get foster care, his parent’s restrictiveness has made it impossible to enjoy his childhood privileges. Cortez understands his past and perceives himself differently from most friends in foster care. In this sense, he fears rejection by increasingly socializing and establishing new relationships. Again, Cortez longs for an opportunity to explore his talent and, possibly, a basketball career.
C. Stated Position as Counseling Student.
As per the requirements, I informed the client of my position as a Christian counselling student and issued a copy of the Statement of Counseling Values and Orientation.
D. Use of the Word of God
I listened to Cortez’s views throughout the counselling session, responded to questions, and reasoned with him concerning various issues. Firstly, Cortez lacked proper parental love and appreciation. Although his foster parents were kind enough to adopt him, Cortez feels that he does not belong with them and seeks to establish relations outside his home due to constant disagreements with his parents. In addressing this problem, I told Cortez that God loved him very much and is not different from other children. Again, I told Cortez that even though he underwent adverse experiences, he should thank God that he is alive, well, and under the care of his foster parents. Concerning his foster parent’s restrictiveness and his love for basketball, I told Cortez to pray, be patient, and reason with his parents because, in this way, God will provide a way for him to pursue his passion without disagreeing with his caregivers. I noted that Cortez felt indifferent towards his incarcerated mother and blamed her for his eventful upbringing. In response, I reminded Cortez about God’s love and the importance of forgiving his mother as the only way to heal and move forward with life. In addressing his fear of rejection and excessive need for affection, I told Cortez to be more confident, appreciate himself, and strive to be happy always because God does not consider what others do, think, or say about him. With this response, I noticed that Cortez had started feeling better, improving his mood.
Cortez is Sanguine Compulsive in Inclusion
As an extrovert, Cortez likes socializing and establishing new relations so much that he experiences tension when left or performing tasks alone. Cortez sometimes goes shopping or participates in unnecessary activities to socialize and interact with others. Since Cortez is active and talkative, he loves attention and is willing to do anything, including evil deeds, to draw attention or become the centre of discussion. Even though he is optimistic, Cortez is short-tempered and shifts focus quickly to other things when performing tasks. Due to his problematic past, Cortez fears rejection seeks to please others and conform to their values and behavior.
Cortez is Choleric in Control
Observably, Cortez is independent-minded and has exemplary leadership skills. Besides, he can make quick decisions and undertakes every task to perfection. Nevertheless, Cortez loves controlling other people more than he would love to be under their control. In most situations, Cortez employs his temper and resorts to unbecoming behaviour to gain control over others, including his friends and family. Besides, Cortez often associates with weak people and criticizes or resents them when they fail to meet his expectations and standards. Since the exceedingly loves control, Cortez remains hostile and lashes out on anybody who attempts to control him.
Cortez is Sanguine in Affection.
According to the results, Cortez expresses and requires a lot of love and affection. As a high-intensity extrovert, Cortez strives to establish and maintain deep relationships with many people. Apart from socializing, Cortez communicates love and respect through touching, hugging, kissing, and stroking. Equally, he requires such physical expressions to feel loved and appreciated. Because he believes in making friends, Cortez inspires and uplifts many people who perceive him as a symbol of love and happiness. Despite being friendly, Cortez fears rejection and experiences anxiety when people tell him that they love and appreciate him. Cortez works hard to save the relationship when facing rejection or other challenges. If everything fails to work out ultimately, Cortez quickly moves on and establishes a new connection because he believes it might work, unlike the previous one. Since he loves to please people, Cortez is willing to do anything, including adopting ill behavior to feel loved and accepted by others.
Scriptures used:
As you come to him, the living Stone is rejected by humans but chosen by God and precious to him. (1st Peter 2:4).
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing so that by the power of the Holy Spirit, you may abound in hope. (Romans 15:13)
Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion for the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! (Isaiah 49:15)
E. Goals for This Client
I was glad that Cortez wanted to address his issues before they worsened. Based on his situation, I developed several goals that would improve his life. Firstly, I want Cortez to establish a solid relationship with God through prayer. Considering his past, I would like Cortez to reflect on how God has blessed him and, more importantly, understand that God has a unique plan for him. This way, Cortez should appreciate the love and value himself more instead of depending on other people’s approval. Secondly, I would like Cortez to know that as much as socializing is helpful, he should communicate and rely more on God because His blessings, love, and protection do not change. Again, Cortez should desist from tempting physical expressions, which might draw him towards immorality. In matters concerning control, I would like Cortez to submit to God’s will and recognize that even though he is a leader, other people’s opinions can positively shape his life. Finally, I would like Cortez to learn to communicate his anger, frustrations, disappointment, and pain without hurting himself and others.
F. Evaluation: Recommendations/Referrals
Cortez should always be allowed to socialize and perform tasks with other people. In unavoidable circumstances, Cortez should have a radio, television, or other media to keep him busy and reduce anxiety. Since Cortez is an extrovert and flows with the crowd, he should spend time creating relationships with respectable, prudent, and disciplined people. In addition, Cortez should learn to take instructions from superiors, delegate responsibilities, and not externalize anger on people or situations beyond his control. Cortez should be constantly reminded that he is accepted, loved, and appreciated to overcome the fear of rejection. More importantly, he should learn that God loves him and express his love and affection in ways that please God. Finally, Cortez should learn to overcome anxiety and restrain himself when facing rejection or other relationship problems.
G. How Well Did You Do with This Client?
Your Strengths: Due to my supine, I quickly understood Cortez’s situation, experiences, and predicament. As a Christian counselling student, I diligently work to enrich children’s lives by ensuring that they communicate their problems, pursue their dreams, and draw closer to God. Since I am talkative like the client, I gave him an excellent opportunity to express his problems and heal.
Your Weaknesses: Since I am phlegmatic in control, I felt the client tried to manipulate the counselling procedure. In this case, controlling the client and guiding him throughout the session wasn’t easy. Besides, since I am sanguine in inclusion, I felt we took more time than required for the counselling sessions. I had to be more precise and less friendly to the client to overcome this weakness and avoid going off course.
Reference
Barker, K. L., Strauss, M. L., Brown, J. K., Blomberg, C. L., & Williams, M. (Eds.). (2020). NIV study bible. Zondervan.
